Pebbles

In my hand is a pebble.

It is small, round. It takes up little space in the palm of my hand.

It is smooth from the handling of my memory.

The pebble is a moment.

It’s the time my young son pointed his finger up at the ceiling when we sang “Baby, you can be a star!”

This one is the time my new boyfriend’s daughter climbed into my lap to read my magazine with me.

And this one is the first time our oldest son referred to me as one of his parents.

There are other stones, larger. Too heavy to carry and too significant to sit in my hand.

My graduations from college – once with just a tassel, and once with a cowl.

My wedding to my first husband. And my second.

The day my son joined us on this earth.

The weight of these moments grounds me, and my memory moves among them like stepping stones. They sing my past to me and give me a foundation to walk on. Like markers on ancient highways, they measure my life’s distance. I can look back and see the impressions they make in the earth I build by living.

Yet they are dwarfed in number by the pebbles. The great stepping stones of my most significant moments swim in a sea of pebbles – the memories of the lopsided cake and the puppy with the muddy feet.

When I lived in England – a stepping stone so massive it rises from the landscape and divides my life in two – I visited the home of Winston Churchill.

The memory of World War II is a living thing in Southern England. Local residents will still show you where a church once stood, or tell you about how the road used to go over the river there, where there used to be a bridge. To step into the house of Winston Churchill is to step into a physical manifestation of the collective memory of a people who fought back against a dark threat and carry that pride with them – silent, undiscussed.

The third floor of Sir Winston’s home, Chartwell, houses a collection of artifacts collected over a lifetime. A sword gifted from a Sultan. A soup tureen carved from jade in the shape of a viking ship. A centuries-old clay native American pot. All gifts from heads of state. The lower floor holds a museum – a timeline of accomplishments from his days as a wanted man in the Boer Wars to his address to a country entering war.

A life of stepping stones. Of monuments.

When I walked from the estate house into the gardens I was exhausted. So much. So much.

Where were his pebbles?

What must it feel like to live an existence of such magnitude that all your life’s moments carry the weight of a nation and the expectation of importance?

I think these thoughts lately as my pebbles become less defined. Days rush by and become weeks and months so fast I am sure the pebbles are melting together beneath my feet, leaving me only able to appreciate the large markers that create my foundation and demarcate my accomplishments.

Breathless I think of Winston Churchill. I remember walking from his home awed by a man so pivotal to my own freedom yet sad that in a world that expected stepping stone after stepping stone that he seemed denied the time to collect something so trivial as pebbles.

I kneel and plunge my hands into the earth, feeling for the small things. I dig, blindly and urgently, for the familiar roundness of my smaller moments. I find the memory of buying the tiniest, softest kitten that would in months turn into a beautiful, sleek devil cat. Digging more I find the pebble shaped like the first cup of coffee made for me by the man who would become my husband.

Exhaling, I brush off dirt to re-acquaint myself with the colors and textures.

For though the stepping stone markers of my largest moments paint the framework of my world, it is the carpet of endlessly varied pebbles that create the richness of my life.

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31 Responses to Pebbles

  1. Wow, Lori. Just wow. Sometimes I’m struck by your occupation to give people words when you’re so talented at simply writing them.

  2. Lori, my first blog read of the day and now nothing will compare.
    What a gift you have.
    What a beautiful moving post.
    Again, the moments that make up our lives, and so many of them are forgotten.
    Much love to you.

  3. I don’t have any words…brilliant and beautiful. So poetic and so very true. Love this. Love.

  4. “This one is the time my new boyfriend’s daughter climbed into my lap to read my magazine with me.”

    Awwww…I remember the first time my boyfriend’s youngest son asked to sit on my lap while we watched a movie. I almost cried.

  5. Wow to be able to write like that.
    I’m speechless.

  6. This is beautiful! So many of your pebbles made me smile, and remember my own.

  7. Wow, my friend. Simply breathtaking.

    This is the very first thing I read this morning, and what a wonderful thought to carry me through the day.

    I agree with Erin…how fitting that you give other people language in your daily life when you yourself are so truly gifted with it.

  8. Lovely, my friend.

    Beautifully written, beautifully thought.

    xo

  9. When you go deep, Lori, you really know how to do it – to be so adept at humor as well as larger, more meaningful thoughts is such a talent. Interesting, beautiful post.

  10. That was a lovely thing to read after a not-so-lovely week.

  11. Lori, this was so beautiful it made my heart hurt. Lovely, lovely post with vivid, compelling imagery.

  12. Simply beautiful beautiful beautiful. Incredible images and reflections. Thank you for making me smile!

  13. CDG

    Oh, Lori…

    In the midst of a grumpy day, you’ve lightened the load on my shoulders with this.

    A little exhale.

    Thank you!

  14. Lori, this isn’t funny at all.
    Instead it’s touching and thought provoking. Beautiful words friend.

  15. Brings new meaning to “I Am a Rock,” huh?

  16. Beautiful thoughts beautifully written! You truly have the gift!
    – When my son brought me a dandelion for the first time.
    – When I walked down the aisle (the second time) but I wanted to run down to start my life with the most wonderful man I have ever met!
    – When my husband’s grandson called me “Gwamma.”
    – When I saw my daughter in what would be her wedding dress.
    Jodi

  17. Oh, Lori this was beautiful! I love the imagery you used. Well said, my friend.

  18. I saved this for the end of my day.
    After a tough week, this beautiful piece helped me to recenter.
    Thank you for that, my lovely friend.

  19. Goodness! This is so beautifully written and important. The pebbles count. As do the stones. They all muddle together, don’t they? Your imagery is nothing short of poignant. Truly well done, lady!

  20. You have amazed me.

    Your writing. I am in awe.

  21. This is beautiful. You get, like, a million Martha points for this, ok? Thanks for making me stop and remember the pebbles.

  22. liz

    Wow, Lori! So moving!

    I really love how you spoke about measuring life’s distance. So many focus on their number of years on the planet instead of a life lived. But all of our experiences, good or bad, is how we measure a life.

  23. Lori, my words cannot begin to honor the beauty of yours.
    I am ever so grateful that I have your words to read and remember. Thank you.

  24. Beautiful! So glad I stopped by today!

  25. Lori,
    I knew about this piece. But I kept it until today…tonight…because I knew I would be overwhelmed with the week ahead and somehow tired from a weekend that flew by much to quickly.

    And I was not wrong.

    This is just what I needed. This is by far the most beautiful piece I have read in a very, very long time.

    And now to cherish my pebbles.

    Thank you.

  26. Now you have me thinking about all the pebbles that have blessed my life. Thank you for the trip down memory lane.

  27. What a beautiful post Lori. Your writing is unique and I love it. Intelligent, full of wisdom…and here, full of amazing and beautiful memories.

  28. That was beautiful. Sucha pictoral image of a life…I simply loved the symbolism!

  29. Such perfect imagery – love this post!

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